Tuesday, February 24, 2009

The Great Shrinking Elephant

After putting it ALL out there a couple weeks ago, I feel like I should do a follow up for those concerned about me. The time we took to get away Valentine's Day weekend (Feb. 14) was fabulous. My husband now says he wishes we had more weekends away from the kids like that. We have had some tense days and this past Saturday a major blow up that thankfully got hashed out Sunday morning. That has been in our favor-- that we are talking no matter how painful it is. And solving conflicts without counseling. It has been too easy in some ways, but I am not complaining. Our relationship now is better than it's probably EVER been.

My friend Holly put it this way. We had a huge elephant in the house and neither of us would talk about it, because to talk about it would be to admit that it existed. It is just easier to pretend it's not there. For my part, I probably didn't SEE the elephant, because I am dense that way. Anyway, the more we talk about the elephant now, the smaller it is getting, until I'm sure it will be small enough to sweep out the door in a dust pan. I know not everyone has it that easy. I am thankful for this wake up call. It's probably the best thing to happen to our marriage.

These days, even with 3 kids around we are managing to act like young honeymooners again. It's like our early days together only better. Now with 14 years of history together, we are loving each other more truly, madly deeply.


~*~Patty Szymkowicz said...

How sweet and lovely to hear, fourteen years is nothing to sneeze at :)

Margaret said...

Great to hear Nathalie, as you know I'm all for a bit of fabulousness! hang in there and enjoy that second honeymoon

Shabby Chick said...

Awww that's wonderful, I hope things carry on getting better and better. Glad you had a great weekend away too.

Thanks for your comment on my post, it's good to know I'm not the only one with erm, creative children.

Mel xxx

Linda said...

Wow....steam is coming off my computer screen even now!!!

Uber Crafter Wanna-Be said...

Keep on keepin on! Being married is a lot of work - but if you can get through the rough spots you come out stronger!

Christine said...

Nathalie, I have not had a chance to visit in awhile and just took a read through all of the posts since the "door of love". I am so happy that the elephant is shrinking. And the items you have been creating are just so amazing. I have never worked with canvas. Paper yes, canvas no. Canvas scares me. It just seems so, well, permanent.

You keep doing what you are doing. It's going to all be great.


Anna said...

super nathalie.... i love the madly deeply truly.... You are an inspiration as always :)

Ashlyn said...

Hey, girl!
I think Savage Garden says it best..............

I'll be your dream
I'll be your wish
I'll be your fantasy.
I'll be your hope
I'll be your love
Be everything that you need.
I love you more with every breath
Truly madly deeply do..
I will be strong I will be faithful
'Cos I'm counting on a new beginning.
A reason for living.
A deeper meaning.

I want to stand with you on a mountain.
I want to bathe with you in the sea.
I want to lay like this forever.
Until the sky falls down on me...

And when the stars are shining brightly
In the velvet sky,
I'll make a wish
Send it to heaven
Then make you want to cry..
The tears of joy
For all the pleasure and the certainty.
That we're surrounded
By the comfort and protection of..
The highest power.
In lonely hours.
The tears devour you..
I want to stand with you on a mountain,
I want to bathe with you in the sea.
I want to lay like this forever,
Until the sky falls down on me...

Oh can't you see it baby?
You don't have to close your eyes
'Cos it's standing right before you.
All that you need will surely come...

I'll be your dream
I'll be your wish
I'll be your fantasy.
I'll be your hope
I'll be your love
Be everything that you need.
I'll love you more with every breath
Truly madly deeply do...

Good Luck!!! I pray that you live truly, madly, deeply in love forever!!!
Hugs, Ashlyn

Donna said...

Oh Sweetie! I've been praying!!! Stay happy!!!hughugs

Jeanie said...

I'm glad you've updated us -- One always hates to ask, but I've thought of you often with many prayers and positive wishes.

Those elephants are pesky creatures. But I think you've found the key -- letting the air out, so to speak, makes the balloon (or elephant) smaller.

I'm smiling. That's good news.

Ragamuffin Gal said...

I am so glad to hear this wonderful news Natalie! I am still holding you and your family in my heart and prayers!