After putting it ALL out there a couple weeks ago, I feel like I should do a follow up for those concerned about me. The time we took to get away Valentine's Day weekend (Feb. 14) was fabulous. My husband now says he wishes we had more weekends away from the kids like that. We have had some tense days and this past Saturday a major blow up that thankfully got hashed out Sunday morning. That has been in our favor-- that we are talking no matter how painful it is. And solving conflicts without counseling. It has been too easy in some ways, but I am not complaining. Our relationship now is better than it's probably EVER been.
My friend Holly put it this way. We had a huge elephant in the house and neither of us would talk about it, because to talk about it would be to admit that it existed. It is just easier to pretend it's not there. For my part, I probably didn't SEE the elephant, because I am dense that way. Anyway, the more we talk about the elephant now, the smaller it is getting, until I'm sure it will be small enough to sweep out the door in a dust pan. I know not everyone has it that easy. I am thankful for this wake up call. It's probably the best thing to happen to our marriage.
These days, even with 3 kids around we are managing to act like young honeymooners again. It's like our early days together only better. Now with 14 years of history together, we are loving each other more truly, madly deeply.